Christmas Without Mom: Things To Help When Grief Steals Your Joy

There’s no place like home for the holidays—except when your mother isn’t there anymore. Things that used to bring Christmastime joy can lead to devastating episodes of grief, moments that feel like someone took scissors to your heart and cut a big piece right out of it. For my friends who have lost their mothers, I grieve with you this holiday season, and pray that God will slowly restore your ability to enjoy Christmas again. But without a doubt, it’s hard.

Because let’s face it. No one loves you like your mom. A mother’s love is the only real cure for the most debilitating of life experiences, and is perhaps the most meaningful validation of our blessings. How I wish I could bring back the Christmases when, after hours of shuttling the kids around to my mother’s lovingly-planned holiday activities, I could sit across the living room from her, curled up in a comfy, oversized chair with a warm blanket, drinking the hot chocolate that she made a special trip to Starbucks to buy for me, telling her everything good and bad about my life. On these special nights, she’d help me put the kids to bed in Christmas pj’s that she had custom-ordered, and even as she struggled to divide her attention between some sappy Hallmark holiday movie and my constant talking, her listening ears were the only ones who heard me in the way that I really needed someone to hear me. Now that she’s gone, I yearn for the feeling I felt when I could tell my mother about something. There’s an awful hopelessness in realizing that I won’t ever be able to do this again. Grief is a perpetual criminal, constantly stealing the joy from life as it goes on after we lose someone we love so dearly. Especially during the holidays.

Can we ever really find the happiness in Christmas after such a devastating loss? I know my mother would want me to try, especially for the sake of my kids. So even though I don’t really have the answer, I can share some simple things that might help:

  1. Talk about your mom—through words and tears. Part of the reason grief is so painful is that so many things you wish you could share are still bottled up inside. Let them out. Talk about your mother, even when it’s uncomfortable and hard. Say her name often. Tell the stories that once made Christmas with her so special. Laugh with your kids about the good times. Share the memories. And cry when you need to. We can talk with our tears. They’re not a sign of weakness, they’re a cathartic step in the right direction on your grief journey. And they’re just another way to say “I miss you.”
  1. Carry on her holiday traditions. Did your mother love to do certain things during the holidays? Cook special treats? Watch favorite movies? Eat at certain restaurants while holiday shopping? Attend Christmas Eve family service? Carry on these traditions. I have a dear friend whose mother loved the movie, “A Christmas Story.” This year—the first holiday season after her mother passed away—my friend and her family attended the play at a local theatre as a tribute to her mom. Traditions are a special thing to share and continue as you honor your mother’s legacy each holiday season, and something that can be passed down for generations to come. If your mother had a favorite holiday tradition, carry it on.
  1. Give your mother a gift in Heaven each year. This year, the kids and I are going to begin an entirely new tradition to remember my mother (who died of breast cancer in 2015). The first gift that we open on Christmas morning will be a gift to her in Heaven. My mother had the kindest of hearts—she was a physician who dedicated her life to helping others. And her grandchildren were her greatest source of joy. They don’t yet know what it is, but my children will open a present tomorrow that will symbolize my mother’s love, kindness, work ethic, and passion for service to others. She’ll be with us each year on Christmas morning as we unwrap a gift that’s designed especially for her.

I pray for my friends who are struggling without their mothers this holiday season. I hope you will find some comfort in this post, and even though it doesn’t feel “Merry” at times, I hope you all have a wonderful Christmas holiday and that the new year is filled with loving memories of your precious moms.




Some “Do’s” and “Don’ts” of Dealing with a Divorced Friend


Four years ago, I became the person that no one wants to be. I was the “divorced” friend—the humiliated, suddenly-single mother of three confused children, ages ten and under. I’ll spare you the gut-wrenching details of my time in this emotional blender, because what you really need to know are ways that you can help someone in a similar situation—and ways to avoid causing even more pain. There’s a reason that people get divorced, and many times, it’s bad. You don’t want to make it worse. So I’ll begin with the “don’ts.”

When it comes to dealing with a divorced friend, here are three things you shouldn’t do:

  1. Don’t “pick the scab.” As tempted as you may be, you should not Facebook-stalk your friend’s ex and tell her all about the shocking pictures you found. Do not remind her that you recently saw her ex behaving badly and spill the juicy details. And for goodness sake, do not insinuate that she could have done something better to preserve the marriage (e.g., being nicer, younger, thinner, etc.). I can promise you that she has re-lived the wounds a million times in her mind, and before she can truly move forward with her life, they must begin to scab over and heal. Bringing up the bad stuff is like picking the scab. Don’t do it.
  1. Don’t judge. This one may seem obvious, but you’d be surprised. I once had a woman stop talking to me on a plane when she realized that I was divorced. Yes, that’s right. She literally stopped mid-sentence, and did not say another word to me for the duration of the three-hour flight. Ouch. If she could have only walked a mile in my shoes, she would have discovered what it’s like to choose between running into a burning building and jumping from a 1,000-foot bridge. Please, don’t judge. You have no idea what really happened in your friend’s situation. You didn’t live it.
  1. Don’t offer unsolicited advice. When a friend goes through divorce, you can’t magically fix the situation, no matter how hard you try. And the more you talk, the more likely you are to say something incredibly insensitive or inadvertently hurtful. Your friend needs a listening, supportive ear, not a results-oriented analysis of how everything should work out. Don’t offer unsolicited advice to try and fix a problem you can’t solve.

On the other hand, there are many ways to help—here are three things you should do:

  1. Do include. Divorce is not an infectious disease. Really, it’s not contagious. Invite your friend to the “married people” events. Include her just as you did before. After all, she’s still the same wonderful person and friend that she was before her marriage ended. Don’t treat her like she doesn’t belong anymore. I am eternally grateful for my married friends who invited me anyway once I became single.
  1. Do reach out and encourage. Getting a divorce can feel like being shoved in a box and put away in the attic—people often don’t know what to say or do, so they don’t do anything—leaving the divorced friend feeling as if she’ll never escape the world of solitary confinement. Reach up there and take your friend out of her isolation. Send a note. Make a call. Stop by for a visit. Offer to help with her everyday responsibilities or kids. Plan a girls’ weekend. Anything to encourage your friend to keep going. One of the sweetest things that a friend did for me after my divorce was to leave a beautifully-framed picture of my children on my front door step, along with an encouraging note. I still look at that picture sometimes. It catapulted me forward at a time when I was so deflated that I didn’t think I could go on. Encouragement—even in small doses—is nourishment for the divorced soul.
  1. Do connect. Many women who divorce have been unbelievably isolated from the world for a long period of time. They have felt too ashamed and scared to ask for help. If you can, connect your friend to potential employers, other friends who have gone through similar circumstances, and those who can foster growth and help counteract the painful sting of such a humiliating life event. After my divorce, I landed a fantastic job through a church friend who took valuable time to connect me with one of her professional colleagues. This made a lasting impact on the landscape of my life. Divorce is so disconnecting. Do everything possible to help your friend stay connected to the right people.

I’m happy to say that I can write this post because of those who included, reached out and encouraged, and connected me during the darkest days of divorce. They didn’t pick the scab, or judge, or offer unsolicited advice to me along the way. And now, I’m very happily remarried—and very, very thankful.


5 Ways for Moms to Keep the “Christ” in Christmas

I taught my daughter’s Kindergarten Sunday School class at church a couple of weeks ago, and our topic was Advent—a special time when we prepare to celebrate Christmas. After asking the kids about the things they think of as Christmas approaches, I got many different answers: Santa, Rudolph, presents, singing Jingle Bells, reindeer, decorations, and the like. But no one mentioned the answer that I was specifically looking for—the fact that Christmas is Jesus’s birthday. That’s really not surprising, is it?

I understand and respect the fact that we are a world full of different cultures, beliefs, and religions. In our home, however, we believe that Jesus is the real reason that we celebrate Christmas. If you share this belief, you might be wondering about ways that you can emphasize this to your children during the often-secular Christmas holiday season. Here are five suggestions from Vicky Savage, our beloved children’s ministry director at West University Methodist Church (where we have attended church for many years):

  1. Make the first “gift” of the season a special nativity set. You may already have one. But if you don’t, consider purchasing a special nativity set—then wrap it beautifully and make it the first gift that you open together as a family when you begin to decorate for Christmas. Set it up in a special place each year. This will remind the kids of the most important thing they should be thinking about during the holidays: Jesus’s birthday!
  1. Decorate a “Christmas box.” This one is fun and easy. Just give each child a box, let them decorate the outside with stickers, pictures, and other fun items relating to the story of Jesus’s birth, and fill the inside with activities that reinforce the same theme. I filled Olivia’s box with stickers, bookmarks, coloring books, and do-it-yourself crafts that help remind her of the Christmas story.


  1. Play the “I Spy” game while looking at Christmas lights. Everyone loves to look at beautiful Christmas lights. Next time you’re driving around “oooh-ing” and “aaah-ing” over magnificent light displays, ask your kids to look for special symbols of Jesus’s birthday. Ask them to find a star, an angel, a baby Jesus, or anything else that symbolizes Christ’s birth.
  1. Attach “Happy Birthday, Jesus!” gift tags to holiday baked goods. Incorporate the message into your holiday baking activities. Create cute “Happy Birthday, Jesus!” tags and attach them to Christmas baked goods. Then deliver them to neighbors, friends, or other individuals/organizations in need.
  1. Create an annual Christmas family service project. Sponsor a family who can’t afford to buy gifts, fill a basket with items for 25 days and donate these items to charity, feed the homeless on Christmas day… these are just a few of many ways to commemorate Christ’s love in honor of his birthday each Christmas. Don’t forget that a heart for service to others during the holidays could be the best reminder of Jesus for all.

It really is the most wonderful time of the year. As Christians, it’s up to us to teach our children why—because we’re celebrating our Savior’s birth! Thank you, Ms. Vicky, for reminding me of this, and for your thirty-plus years of service in children’s ministry at West University Methodist Church!

I’d love to hear about other ways that you and your family keep the “Christ” in Christmas… so please feel free to comment and share your ideas. Merry Christmas, friends!

Motherhood and Middle Age: Three Things I’m Doing to Cope

For many of us, it’s finally here. That formidable opponent called middle age. Mothers everywhere are turning forty-plus—and struggling. Marriages are crumbling behind closed doors, the fear of an empty nest is looming in the distance like an ominous storm cloud, and the motivation to get out of bed each morning is being crushed by the terrifying thought of what we’re really gonna do with our lives as we bid farewell to the promise of our youth. So how in the world did we end up like this?

Let’s rewind. I do recall having a career at some point (though it’s foggy). I remember crying fearful tears in the bathroom of my law firm after discovering that I was going to be a mother for the first time. I was twenty-six, just over a year-and-a-half out of law school, and scared to death to tell my boss. But I mustered the courage, finishing my announcement with something like, “Don’t worry, I’m going to balance it all perfectly. You’ll see.” It was as if I could picture the scales, with work on one side and motherhood on the other, equally balanced, everything nice and neat.

Oh, those best-laid plans. Not long after my daughter was born, the imaginary scales flipped over and fell straight on top of me. At one point, I was running through Walgreens with my screaming, feverish infant, trying to pick up a prescription while holding my phone against my ear during a conference call and trying desperately to close a deal. Then came the numerous “working from home” days, during which I would type maybe ten words per hour as I rushed back and forth between my computer and my daughter (who seemed to be afflicted by a fever, an ear infection, or the stomach bug at least once a week). Over time, I found myself issuing countless apologies to work colleagues and consuming massive amounts of homemade guilt, so I eventually decided to become a stay-home mom. And now, after years of diapers and playdates and chaperoning field trips and watching baseball games and volunteering at school holiday parties, I find myself a little bit lost. As good as I feel about devoting my life to my children, I often wonder where I’ll go from here.

You see, in just a few years, that same infant that I toted through Walgreens will graduate from high school, and she will (hopefully) go off to college. While preparing to fund what could be a six-figure college education, I can’t help but wonder if she’ll eventually end up like me—many, many years of expensive school, a professional degree, a short stint in the working world, and staring mid-life in the face with no real career in sight, scared that my time has come and gone. Is this a good thing? I’m supposed to be her role model, right?

Please understand that I feel extremely blessed and thankful to be a stay-home wife and mother, because I truly believe that family is everything, and that God’s primary purpose for me is to be the best wife and mother that I can possibly be. But at the same time, I’m jealous of my friends that have cultivated their careers and have something in place for themselves. As hard as I try to unselfishly focus on my family, I must admit that I still have these thoughts.

So now what? Honestly, I don’t know the answer. I’m just praying for guidance as I enter midlife, and as God slowly opens the door to the next chapter—whatever it holds—here are three small things that I’m going to do to cope:

  1. Spending special time with girlfriends. We know the importance of date night with our spouse, but what about time with our girlfriends? As we get older, we give so much of ourselves to our families that we’re often unable to invest time and effort in good friendships. Isolation is a huge danger in the aging process. Perhaps we should make it a point to reach out to friends and schedule more quality time together, even if it’s just once a year. I always feel rejuvenated after a girls’ trip. There’s just something about sitting around with the girls on the back porch in your pj’s—laughing, drinking coffee, and catching up—that’s good for the soul. Especially the middle-aged soul. Girlfriends are a special gift from God.
  1. Listening to the right voices. The world will tell you that you’re worthless once you get a single wrinkle or age spot or gain a single midlife pound. God will tell you that you’re on a journey that He created for you, and to embrace the next phase. Listen to the Godly voices. Tune out the others. The people that you really want in your life as you get older won’t care how you look.
  1. Picking one thing I love to do and doing it often. We all have a God-given passion for something. For me, it’s writing. So I started a blog. The fear of failure almost talked me out of it. But I didn’t let it. And now, here I am, writing this piece and getting a tremendous sense of joy by doing so. Don’t be afraid to try something new if you have a passion for it. You never know where it might lead you.

Yes, for some of us, middle age is here. And it’s discouraging at times. But we’re not done yet, moms. Our families need us to be our best. Let’s not forget to lean on good friends, hear God’s voice, and pursue our God-given passions as we navigate through the thick uncertainty of what’s yet to come.




Why I Don’t Pack My Teenage Daughter’s Suitcase

It’s tempting, yes. But make no mistake about it—I absolutely, positively refuse to pack for my teenage daughter. In a world full of “helicopter” parents, (i.e., hovering, control-driven sticklers who would rather eat a cockroach than allow their children to publicly flounder), I know that my stance is likely unpopular. However, as an on-again, off-again member of this perfectionist sect, I wonder… if we do everything for them, what is this really teaching our kids?

Last year, my daughter took a school trip to Europe. Her teacher-chaperones gave out packing lists and other important information to parents. I knew several moms who (after cheerfully gaining possession of these lists) set out with tenacious tunnel vision to find each and every item needed, checking every box at least twice. And, in the end, with smiling, satisfied faces, they produced perfectly-packaged suitcases for their children that were full of all travel necessities, and then some. Not me. I simply handed the packing list to my daughter, told her to take an inventory of her possessions, to make note of anything she didn’t have, and then helped her buy what she still needed. I told her where to find the suitcase and announced that she would need to pack everything and survey the checklist herself to ensure that she had it all. After the initial shock wore off, she announced that “so-and-so’s mom packs everything for her” and made comments to the tune of “What if I forget something?”

Well, now. That’s a good question, isn’t it?

Hmmm…where was I to begin? I was thinking that, if you can’t do this by yourself now, you will never be able to do it by yourself. You are not three, you are thirteen, and it’s officially time to start taking responsibility for your own life. I am here to support, to guide, to help with things you still can’t do alone (such as taking your own credit card to the store to purchase things you need). But I will not… let me repeat… will not… micromanage you to the point of creating unnecessary weakness. For in the end, my goal as your parent is to raise a strong, independent, capable human being who can successfully adapt to life’s ever-changing circumstances…. and figure it out on your own. Mommy simply will not be there to pack your suitcase, to do your history project, to wash, dry, and fold your laundry, or to manage your life as you get older.

But even as I sat on my high horse and continued my imaginary rant, the question remained… what if she forgets something?

Let’s fast forward. A young woman attends college and receives her first big assignment. She walks into the library—on her own—not knowing exactly where to go or where to begin. Fear takes over, the pressure mounts, her insides begin to crumble, and the first thing she wants to do is… call Mommy, because she’ll tell me exactly what to do. A difficult professor pushes her to take on new academic challenges. Wait, I have to call Mommy first. Eventually, she graduates and interviews for a job, but can’t decide which company to work for. Call Mommy, she’ll even call the company and decide for me. And the pattern becomes that, if she can’t call Mommy and do exactly as she’s told, who knows what she will do? Statistics have clearly shown higher levels of anxiety and depression in children who have been “over-parented,” and therefore lack the inner wherewithal to make decisions for themselves.

It is true that our children need us, and that they are, in fact, a direct reflection of our parenting. It’s only natural that we want them to succeed. But, as someone once told me, you can do everything possible to be a great parent; however, you will ultimately find that even great parents cannot take away their child’s free will. Why not begin to let them exercise that now, starting with the small things, like preparing and packing their own suitcases for their teenage excursions? Yes, they may fail. Actually, let me rephrase that. They probably will fail, in some capacity, at least. And failure can be embarrassing. It can make kids and parents look incompetent and foolish, and can even be expensive, both mentally and monetarily. But that’s okay. For without failure, children will never learn how to bounce. And the sooner they learn how to do this, the better off they’ll be, because resilience is key to successful survival. Who knows, they might even do it better than we as parents can…. Imagine that! (Note: Of course, I’m not suggesting that you don’t double check for potentially life-threatening oversights, such as forgetting essential medication.)

So how does this story end? My daughter read the checklist, packed herself, and somehow made it to and from her destination. I’m certain that she forgot at least something. But she managed to have a great trip, and the confidence she built in her own ability to prepare will be something she will carry with her for the rest of her life. I’m pretty sure that whatever she forgot, she will always remember in the future.

“What If I Don’t Get In?” How I’m Answering This Tough Question

In this season of school application deadlines, I am frequently reminded of our society’s bittersweet love affair with achievement. It pushes us forward, drives us to set goals and meet them, and keeps us going. Achievement is attractive, and it feels good. My daughter is convinced that if she constantly achieves and gets into the school that she wants to attend, then her life will be perfect. This is yet another example of how our culture has led us to believe that a child’s worth is wholly defined by achievement—grades, awards, popularity, athletic prowess, and acceptance letters. As I think this through, I can’t help but ask myself, “Where is all of this going? What if she doesn’t get in?”

I’m forty-one years old, and if I had to name one moment in my life that impacted me the most, one thing that truly transformed me and began to define who I really am, it wasn’t a shining moment of achievement or “success.” It wasn’t a spot on my high school’s homecoming court or an acceptance letter to a top academic university or a great job offer, or closing a big transaction at work or buying a nice new car or house. It was the minute I realized that I had failed on a monumental level. The time my life fell apart—when I was so broken that I was convinced I wouldn’t survive. The moment that all three of my children were standing in the living room crying and expecting me to fix the unfixable, and I just stood there, realizing that my past decisions had not just affected me, but would affect generations to come. In this moment, I was overwhelmed by guilt, shame, and isolation, and imprisoned by the secrecy of things that people didn’t know. Suddenly, all of my “achievements” were profoundly overshadowed, and I had to dig deep to find a way to keep going. Fueled by my mother’s love and my faith in God, I pressed on… one day at a time, following a path that I certainly hadn’t planned—but one that has been filled with many unexpected blessings.

So… if my daughter doesn’t get in, it’s okay. She’s a valuable and wonderfully-made child of God who is loved and cherished by her family. I want her to know that I don’t love her because she achieves, and her worth is not based on a resume. “Failures” should be propellers, not roadblocks. They just move us on to the next thing that God has planned.

A Back-to-School Favorite that Money Can’t Buy

We’re finally back to school, and I’ve searched high and low for more favorites to share with you. After all, this is a prime season for cute, creative things—first-day outfits, supplies, backpacks, lunchboxes, and even special family dinners and traditions. I’ve been hunting for deals and steals, easy weeknight meals, and other fun things to do as a family during the new school year. This week, however, I came across something that money can’t buy… something that I believe will bring more joy—and cost considerably less—than any of the things about which I had originally intended to write.

A few days ago, my daughter and I attended our annual National Charity League chapter-wide kickoff meeting. At the meeting, one of our “Inspiration” chairs—who also works at Rice University—shared her advice to the girls for the new chapter year. She told us that, as part of the Rice MBA program, each new incoming class is told to do one thing. And it’s simple: be nice.

Even if we can’t change the world, we can certainly change someone’s life for the better if we are just nice to them. Sound trite? Try it. I think you’ll be hard-pressed to prove me wrong. This world is full of hate. Our school-year lives are full of selfish behavior, backstabbing gossip, scowls, exclusion, and jaw-dropping insults—and I’m not talking about just the kids. Of particular concern are social media accounts and the corresponding comments; I’m often baffled by the outpouring of pure hatred that can be seen in the comment section of an online post. What sort of endorphin does this feed in the critic’s mind? What wrong does it seem to right for them? What need does it fulfill? I’m simply mystified. Wouldn’t it be much more rewarding to build someone up or help them out in some way?

So my “back to school” favorite to share is this, as conventional and uninteresting as it seems: be nice. Teach your kids to be nice. And specifically, as the school year begins, challenge yourself, and your children, to simply help those in need and, perhaps more importantly, to refrain from making hateful or insulting comments about others not only at school, but on social media. It’s just not nice. In fact, it can ruin lives—in unimaginable ways.

Let’s make the school year ahead a great one, friends. Be nice. It’s easy—and free.

5 More Fun Finds For Summer

We’re about halfway through summer now… and still busy with family vacations, pool time, picking up the kids from camp, and various other adventures. I’ve been on the lookout for some additional things to enhance your summer as we inch closer and closer to the beginning of a new school year. As a follow-up to my initial post, 5 Fun Finds for Summer, I’ve come across some new discoveries that I hope you will enjoy.

1. To Do: Self-Service Dog Wash at Petco’s Unleashed

Looking for something different and fun for the whole family? Try taking your pet to this self-service dog wash, where Petco provides the tub, shampoo, conditioner, brushes, towels, and a professional-strength dryer. For just $10, your precious pup can get clean and beautiful- that’s around 80% less than most dog grooming salons charge-and the whole family can take part, without the mess at home! My oldest child felt a huge sense of accomplishment by doing this and loved that we saved money too. It’s a wonderful summer treat for your pet-and your family. 🙂


2. To Eat: Mint Chocolate Chip Ice-Cream Pie

Calling all Thin Mint lovers! I came across this idea while searching the internet for “easy summer dessert” ideas… While most of my family members will tell you that I’m not a fabulous cook, this was just too easy to mess up! As you can see below, I added a layer of Cool Whip and additional crushed cookies on top. My husband, who is a connoisseur of Mint Chocolate Chip Ice Cream, absolutely loved it! Hope you enjoy too!



3. To Make Your Life Easier: Groceries Delivered by Shipt

Tired of strolling up and down the grocery store aisles, chasing kids, and spending at least two-three hours of your valuable time shopping for and unloading groceries every week? I present to you Shipt, a fabulous delivery service that allows you to order groceries online from Texas favorites HEB and Central Market (check availability/stores in other states)-delivered in as little as an hour. I have a great friend who recommended this service (and actually works for them too), so the kids and I decided to try it. We were beyond impressed-after ordering our groceries at 10:30 a.m., they were delivered to our front door by 12:20 p.m.-in a little less than 2 hours. Amazing! I highly recommend. Bonus: get $10 off when you sign up for Shipt by using this link.


4. To Bring Along on Vacation: Flip 10 Charger by Goal Zero

Don’t get caught with a dead cell phone on your summer adventure… bring along this compact “lipstick” size charger everywhere you go! No need to find an electric outlet or be in your car to charge your phone-you can take this anywhere! So easy, affordable, and very useful.

Lipstick Charger

For the Bride-to-Be: Letters to My Daughters-The Art of Being a Wife

letters to my daughters

Summer is prime wedding season. If you’re looking for a truly unique gift for the bride-to-be, consider this book by Barbara Rainey. Her husband is the head of FamilyLife, a Christian-based organization dedicated to strengthening marriages and families. They’ve been married for almost 45 years. As the link will show you, this book has so much to offer, based on wisdom gained from years of marriage and ministry. I’m proud to say that the Rainey family is from Arkansas, my home state. A great resource inspired by an amazing Christian family.






5 Fun Finds For Summer

By: Holli Fawcett Clayton

Another summer break is here. The kids are growing up fast. And sometimes, I find myself obsessing about what I’m going to do when they have “grown and flown.” This has taken me on a personal journey—to identify my gifts and use them in a way that can make a positive difference right now—while still fulfilling my mom responsibilities. I’ve learned that I love to come up with fun ideas, I love to connect people and things, and I’ve always had a passion for writing. So I decided to take a chance and start a blog called “Trading Favorites,” where I (occasionally) share some of the fun, unique things that I have discovered lately, focusing on a different theme each time. My goal in sharing these is simple: to create joy and inspire you in some wonderful way.

For my first post, I chose “5 Fun Finds for Summer.” If you can find a little joy in just one of these things over the summer break, I will have succeeded in my endeavor. Feel free to share with friends. Happy Summer, everyone!

1. To Wear: A Southern Girl’s T-Shirt. 

If you’re a Southern girl by birth, or even just at heart, I’ve found the perfect summer shirt for you. With graphic designs ranging from bow-ties to seersucker to pearls and chocolate lab puppies, the Southern Couture company has captured the essence of the South and produced some of the most precious shirts I’ve seen.

southern lab

2. To Do: A New Twist on the Traditional Girls’ Night-A Chalkboard Paint Party

There’s a new shop in Bellaire, TX, that was started by Denise Elston, a retired engineer with 30 years of experience in the oil industry. Taking her skills in a new direction, she now repurposes furniture and proudly carries many unique gifts and antiques in her store, which is called Rustic Redeaux. Denise also offers a very interesting opportunity to enjoy a night out with your girlfriends-she provides wine and appetizers while teaching you creative ways to use chalkboard paint, including techniques like gilding, distressing, and refinishing to get the “Restoration Hardware” look. Tap into your creative side and check out her class schedule here. Even if you don’t live in Houston, you can search for similar opportunities in your area–or maybe even start your own!


3. To Bring: The Giving Platter

Going to a summer party? Staying with friends at their summer vacation home? Need a creative hostess gift? Check out this gift that truly keeps on giving. Such a cute, simple idea that promotes a timeless concept.

Giving Platter

4. To Read: Pressing Pause: 100 Quiet Moments for Moms to Meet Jesus

If you’re like the rest of us moms, you are all smiles on the outside, but inside you may be struggling with things that you just can’t talk about. Whether it’s keeping up with the Joneses and their perfect life on Facebook or secretly longing to go shopping instead of volunteering at your children’s school, this book will make you feel normal and spiritually nourished. Each day is a short devotional that begins with a powerful Bible verse, going on to discuss the different daily struggles we face as moms (and how we might better deal with these), then ending with a short prayer to close. There is even a little space for journaling. It’s very concise, powerful stuff.

Pressing Pause

5. To Share with the Kids: Virtue Memory Cards

If you have kids, summertime means looking for ways to beat boredom. Check out these fun “Virtue Cards” that focus on different family values and include Bible verses to support these values. You can choose a card and make it your focus for the day or week, fostering family interaction and teaching great skills. What a wonderful way to spend time with your children and lay the foundation for their future.

Virtue Cards